tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post6319602991448341030..comments2023-07-01T02:19:29.248-07:00Comments on Losing My Gut While Gaining my INSANITY!!: Living with men! And trying to diet!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16149186891188677587noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-17954258105788124072013-03-21T03:22:18.335-07:002013-03-21T03:22:18.335-07:00It's so hard to diet and cook for guys!! Kudo...It's so hard to diet and cook for guys!! Kudos to you!! :) <br /><br />Thank you so much for linking up with past Aloha Friday Blog Hops!! I'm just now getting around to following everyone back. I've followed you via GFC & Bloglovin. If you have time, I hope you follow me back if you haven't already!! <br /><br />The new Aloha Friday Blog Hop launches Thursday evening and we are hosting a GREAT giveaway!!! Come and check it out tomorrow! <a href="http://www.whatjeanlikes.com/search/label/aloha" rel="nofollow">Aloha Friday Blog Hop HERE</a>!<br /><br />Aloha,<br /><br />Jean {<a href="http://www.whatjeanlikes.com" rel="nofollow">What Jean Likes</a>}WhatJeanLikeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13588994389173194456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-1178214938276790822013-03-18T10:55:23.018-07:002013-03-18T10:55:23.018-07:00Betty, I agree with Gwen. But beyond Gwen's po...Betty, I agree with Gwen. But beyond Gwen's point--I do think that we should all "draw a line" when guys get far too dominant about *our* food choices that affect *our* health--which includes not going out if it comes down to that. Mostly, all we are saying is that your husband and kids need to respect that you are trying very hard and that support (vs. loving/friendly sabotage) greatly helps. If they want you to do well with your weight such that they want to support you, they will change their ways. ~MarionAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09499442282999349686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-19384551427780470142013-03-18T08:04:00.318-07:002013-03-18T08:04:00.318-07:00eating out makes it difficult to plan for your eat...eating out makes it difficult to plan for your eating. The only thing you can do is try to plan the rest of your day better for these obstacles! This is about living and it doesn't sound like your family is going to change anytime soon....which means you have to figure out how to make it work for you!MaryFranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02507347923712459651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-9829060300663638072013-03-17T23:16:10.284-07:002013-03-17T23:16:10.284-07:00It is amazing that some people appear to be able t...It is amazing that some people appear to be able to eat everything under the sun and others well, we have to waste our diet a little more. I have been on a mission to get as healthy as I can get since I am moving back to the states. I have doing well with just exercising, lots of water, and rewarding myself once a month for my hardwork. Don't deprive yourself so you can stick with your healthy living. Cynthia @ Richly Middle Class https://www.blogger.com/profile/03052581220120636428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-49911061554006624822013-03-17T22:37:31.808-07:002013-03-17T22:37:31.808-07:00Betty, I think you misunderstood...I never asked y...Betty, I think you misunderstood...I never asked you not to spend time with them, or not go with them. I didn't ask you to blame them for your choices. I simply suggested that they need to begin to respect your choices, and you need to gently lead them there. Just because your husband learned that trait from his mother doesn't mean<br /><br />1. it's right, or<br />2. he can't change, if given the opportunity and knowledge<br /><br />I think it's a good that you are going to ask him to show his love to you in other ways that don't sabotage (even unknowingly) your efforts to get yourself healthier. :)Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18386517479350871434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-28732725638375191252013-03-17T22:20:40.296-07:002013-03-17T22:20:40.296-07:00Ladies, thanks for your comments and advice. I ha...Ladies, thanks for your comments and advice. I have given this a lot of thought. I don't want to give up the time spent with my husband and son. I enjoy that time tremendously. I don't feel that I can blame them for my choices. It is difficult to resist at times but I am the one making the choices. My husband has always associated feeding people with giving love. I understand that, his mother is the same way. I will have a talk with him about helping me to make better choices, and ask him to show his love to me in a way that will help me to be healthy. I don't want to hurt his feelings in any way, I just want him to see why I can't eat all of the things that aren't good for me. I know he wants me to be healthy. <br /><br />We have talked about his diet and I have been making healthy foods for both of the guys at home. They are appreciative of that. I brought some things in from EarthFare today and my son mentioned how the bags of food smell so much better when they come from there. I think it will be a transition for the whole family. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16149186891188677587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-27549056924922815962013-03-17T22:20:19.605-07:002013-03-17T22:20:19.605-07:00Ladies, thanks for your comments and advice. I ha...Ladies, thanks for your comments and advice. I have given this a lot of thought. I don't want to give up the time spent with my husband and son. I enjoy that time tremendously. I don't feel that I can blame them for my choices. It is difficult to resist at times but I am the one making the choices. My husband has always associated feeding people with giving love. I understand that, his mother is the same way. I will have a talk with him about helping me to make better choices, and ask him to show his love to me in a way that will help me to be healthy. I don't want to hurt his feelings in any way, I just want him to see why I can't eat all of the things that aren't good for me. I know he wants me to be healthy. <br /><br />We have talked about his diet and I have been making healthy foods for both of the guys at home. They are appreciative of that. I brought some things in from EarthFare today and my son mentioned how the bags of food smell so much better when they come from there. I think it will be a transition for the whole family. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16149186891188677587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-70443892666986657832013-03-17T21:13:37.070-07:002013-03-17T21:13:37.070-07:00Thank you for stopping by Deezy Does It! Be sure ...Thank you for stopping by Deezy Does It! Be sure to stop by every Friday for our link up :-)<br />XX XO,<br />DeezyDeezyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173551628436026196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-65454044151821227572013-03-17T20:51:47.116-07:002013-03-17T20:51:47.116-07:00People don't like change. You are important to...People don't like change. You are important too, Betty. Claim your happiness:). Alice @ The Owl's SkullJessica McCorthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02414604036752438988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-71823682716788591562013-03-17T19:09:31.615-07:002013-03-17T19:09:31.615-07:00Hi Betty! I agree with Gwen. Your family needs to ...Hi Betty! I agree with Gwen. Your family needs to understand your needs. Often, I just let the boys of my family eat out by themselves because they are going to restaurants to gorge themselves and I really don't want to be part of that. When I am with them, they have learned to act differently. I've told them to not ask me to take bites and to respect that I'm only going to eat about 1/2 of my food and bring the rest home. My husband used to resent that, but now understands that I'm not going to eat with him unless he respects my rights to chose what I eat for myself. <br /><br />You can do that too. It makes eating around guys much easier. <br /><br />:-) MarionAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09499442282999349686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-46863188642158150252013-03-17T16:37:01.092-07:002013-03-17T16:37:01.092-07:00Betty, out of curiosity, playing devil's advoc...Betty, out of curiosity, playing devil's advocate...why are your husband's feelings and 'needs' more important than your own? You are worried about hurting his feelings if you don't take a few bites of offered dessert off his plate. Why isn't he worried about hurting your attempts to eat healthy? From the outside looking in, it just seems unbalanced. Us wives and moms are so used to putting our own feelings and needs last. It's time we stand up for ourselves, our goals, our needs. You need to educate your husband. And although he doesn't have a weight problem, there can be no doubt that the junk he is eating, at his age, is not healthy for him. I think you need to have a loving, come-to-Jesus moment or 100 with him...explaining your needs, your goals, and that if he loves you, he won't keep tempting you. You can't control what he eats, but out of respect for you, he needs to stop trying to get you to eat his junk food. That is simply common courtesy. Don't ya think?Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18386517479350871434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2699419008460778736.post-90889401818892629852013-03-17T15:47:31.846-07:002013-03-17T15:47:31.846-07:00Ohhhhhhhhh I feel your pain! I have 2 adult sons l...Ohhhhhhhhh I feel your pain! I have 2 adult sons living with us and they buy for themselves cookies and such. Yesterday I broke down and ate 2 chips ahoy chocolate chip cookies! Then my husband brought home some Mexican cookies and usually I can resist them but there was a unfrosted Mexican cupcake that had my name on it. Afterwards I had such a rush of sugar I thought I was having a heart attack. <br /><br />Hopefully I have learned my lesson. Debby https://www.blogger.com/profile/02574297621214864538noreply@blogger.com