Here is my original post.
One of my son's friends asked a girl to prom and since she was a runner he bought her running shoes and socks and some other things. He spent about $200. She said yes. This was a few weeks ago. This week she changed her mind. Prom is April 20.
I don't know if she returned the items, but what is going to do with used shoes. I was so angry about this whole thing. Boys should just quit asking. Or wait until the week before. She is one of the popular girls so I'm sure someone else asked her. What are we teaching these girls?
The boy is looking for another date and he will probably find one. He is pretty popular too.
I hope my son's date doesn't back out. I'm sure it would be a long time before he asked anyone else. Probably never. He would just go with some of his friends!
That's just unconscionable!!! The schools ought to crack down on this and say nothing but flowers can be used as prom bribes. (let alone about the chicks dumping the guys.) Makes me mad!
ReplyDeleteAgreed. The middle school here cracked down on limos for eighth grade graduation...and I live in a small town.
DeleteI'm sure the school thinks they have no authority on this invitations since they are done away from the school. I am getting to the point that I will be glad to get away from high school.
DeleteAmen! As a mother of 3 daughters I would never have allowed them to accept an invitation and then back down later. That was all 10 years ago for me, but I do wish guys would band together and refuse to play those invitation games. That's probably the only way to put an end to the craziness. The "no limos" rule was appropriate for school officials, but how can they really ban some things that are done after hours and off school property? And if I was that young man's mom? I'd call that little missy and tell her to have $200 waiting for me cuz I'm on my way over NOW!
ReplyDeleteThe schools sponsor the proms, so they can set any parameters they want. That's the same as saying they can't do anything about off-site bullying, either.
DeleteI feel like you do. If you accept a prom date then you are going with that person. We would not have allowed our son to go overboard on his invitation. As we said, this is not a wedding proposal, this is one evening.
DeleteGwen, I'm sure the school will not interfere in how the boys ask the girls. I think they would expect the parents to take on this issue. It will take someone going to a real extreme to get the school involved.
DeleteOMG! I would be livid. This is awful. I'm so sorry for your son. I agree with J, I probably would tell her to give me the money back. Wow...I'm actually feeling kind of shaky with anger right now and this isn't even my kid...
ReplyDeleteThis was my son's friend, not my son. I was really angry when he tweeted it to my son. We are on vacation, and he sent my son the message. I wouldn't have let my son go to that extreme. I thought the flower and the sign was enough. I just can't believe these invitations have gone this far.
DeleteHi Betty! Wow, what a situation. Firstly, your friend's son spent too much on any girl--and in particular this girl. He needs to understand his own worth, and if a girl rejects him--her loss.
ReplyDeleteThat girl is a real jerk. The nerve of her accepting all of that, and then refusing the guy. She is spineless and lacking morals.<<Bad parenting. I would not have allowed any of my daughters to accept that big of presents from guys. There is just too much expectation with big gifts.
I'm glad that it did not happen to your son. I hope your son can cheer this guy up to realize that he's a great guy no matter what.
:-) Marion
Yes, Marion, it was way too much money. We would never have let our son do that. And the girl has been a jerk for a long time. I don't understand how girls like this can be so popular and can treat people the way they do. Just doesn't make sense to me. Her mother thinks she is an angel, and can do no wrong, that's probably why she is the way she is.
DeleteThe boys all felt really bad for the boy and they are being very supportive.
My son said that is part of the reason he wasn't planning on going to prom, because of the way the girls act. Someone asked him to ask the German exchange student and he figured she probably was much nicer.